Letting things go isn’t always the most zen experience. It can be a daily process of acknowledging feelings, working through all of them in your own way, and then finally, accepting that those feelings may come up again.
Resentments can bubble up for any number of valid reasons. Each one of us could have every right to hold on to that one thing.
A blast from the past could visit us in the most uncomfortable way reminding us of all the good reasons we have to hold on to feeling a certain way..
We could come face to face with our own imperfections and often flawed ways of being — this could lead us to focus in more on everything we aren’t and less on who we are and all that’s good within us.
We could come face to face with others’ imperfections and often flawed ways of being — this could lead us to have a laser focus on what a few people aren’t rather than on all that is good in the world.
In these moments, we are all faced with the choice to stay in that place of angst or to let whatever it is go for the sake of our own well being as well as that of others. We can decide to continue to dwell on the negative or to shift our focus to what’s good in ourselves, our lives, and in the world.
If you have one of these moments, consider choosing to let that one thing that consumes you in a negative way go. Work on doing something that brings positive energy into your life instead.
Letting it go does not mean accepting not being treated well by others or accepting an untenable situation. It is more about expressing what you need to in a serene way, taking clear, calm and assertive action if you need to, and then fully accepting aspects of the situation you can’t change and making the decision to move on from those.
Here are some beautifully articulated thoughts on letting things go that provide inspiration and motivation:
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ― Steve Maraboli
“If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest.” ― Deb Caletti
“When we think we have been hurt by someone in the past, we build up defenses to protect ourselves from being hurt in the future. So the fearful past causes a fearful future and the past and future become one. We cannot love when we feel fear…. When we release the fearful past and forgive everyone, we will experience total love and oneness with all.” ― Gerald G. Jampolsky
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” ― Deborah Reber
“When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging.” — Brene Brown
What are your thoughts on letting things go? Do you find it easy to do?