Forgiveness can be an emotionally challenging process.
And yet, even if we aren’t aware of it, we already do have a daily forgiveness mindset. We forgive ourselves and others in little ways every single day.
Where we get stuck is with the bigger things – the things that are so much harder to forgive. These can become stumbling blocks on our paths to a peaceful way of being.
When we don’t come through for our own needs in specific, significant ways, we can either choose to continually be self-critical – or gently forgive ourselves with self compassion, accept that we have our own unique limitations and choose to do things differently another day.
When others disappoint, especially in big ways, it is important to do the same. It may be a little harder because we don’t know exactly why they treated us that way. If it was someone close to us, it is easy to think they didn’t care. If a stranger caused the hurt, we may feel dejected and hurt all at once and start to lose trust in the world as a whole.
If we don’t let go and forgive on a daily basis, those emotions take away from how we interact with the world every day. We let others’ actions dictate our feelings about the world and ourselves and allow external circumstances affect how we show up in the world instead of clearly deciding how we are going to show up for ourselves.
Instead, take a moment to forgive. Let go of how you would have preferred an interaction to go. Decide to create boundaries and interact differently with the person who didn’t treat you in a way that you would have appreciated and then, keep your optimism and trust in the universe intact.
Treat each situation as the unique interaction that it is.
With a daily mindset of forgiveness, you can free yourself from the expectations and hurt associated with a specific person and fully accept that they were not able to be any different in that moment. This helps with letting go of feelings of disappointment and wanting things to be different.
Forgiveness is the daily, intentional discipline of having a mindset of acceptance, compassion and patience with ourselves and others.
The act of forgiving on a daily basis prevents that accumulation of hurt emotions from stealing the joy of living in the very precious present moment.
I don’t think it is always easy but I do think it is worth the effort.
What are your feelings about making forgiveness a daily practice?